Last night I was watching an abc news special which profiled and interviewed Jaycee Dugard. At one point in the show they mentioned that the police department failed Jaycee over 60 times! This girl was held in captivity for years and came close to being rescued many times, but the police failed to act. I wish this was an unusual isolated incident, but it’s not. Police fail to protect and serve all the time. Some are overworked and understaffed, some have their hands tied by bureaucratic red tape and some it really appears that they don’t care.
Once the state of California declared that I had a child with my perpetrator, the visitations set in. By this time I was pregnant with my second child and remarried. I had greatly considered defying the court order and not allowing him to see my daughter. I would have gone to jail and he would have had her full time, because there are no laws in which he can be tired and jailed for his actions, but me protecting my child? There are laws against that.
I packed my 3 year old daughter up and let this POS take her for their ” visit”. The visits consisted with him spending every minute of it down talking me, critizing me and trying to poison my daughter who was still just a baby against me.
He was in accident, driving while high or drunk or both I don’t remember, my baby wasn’t hurt that time. His car was totaled. I called the police department and told them I suspected this person was drunk and driving around with my child. The police officer told me; ‘ you should be more selective with who you have children with”
Reminder I did not ” choose” to have a child with this person! The State of California because they hadn’t victimized me enough said I had a child with this person! Because having just me suffer wasn’t enough, they wanted another generation if suffering.
The nightmare continued; he would leave my little girl with his teenage severely autistic son who masterbated all over the house. I am not saying that I didn’t like his son or that he was at fault, but he shouldn’t have been left alone and he is not an acceptable babysitter for a 4 year old. So he got in trouble for that, then he found her another babysitter, the next one overdoesed on drugs. The one after that poured vodka on herself and light herself on fire. I called the police, I petitioned the courts, I called child protective services. THEY ALL DID NOTHING!
Icing in the cake; my 3,4,5 year old would come back from fun filled visits with perpetrator. Where she allowed to eat what ever she wanted, have a cookie jar with her name on it, no bed time. She could do whatever she liked. To being given back to me. A real parent with rules and boundaries, the more I fought to reduce his time and eventually eliminate it, the more she hated me. She would cry and scream at me that she hated me for keeping them apart.
I remember once perpetrator pointed out how upset she was at leaving him, I explained that she has the same response at leaving the McDonalds play area, should I give in and just let her live there?
I thought being married to him to begin with was the worst thing I will ever have to go through in my life, if o could just get through that I can live a life I want to and not suffer anymore. I was so very wrong.